For most of you reading this article, this is true.
The question you should ask: ‘Is being my biggest critic beneficial for me?’
I would argue a definite that it is a definite yes if you are framing how you are being critical of yourself.
First, those providing feedback in your life from the outside are far less influential to your subconscious mind the way you talk to yourself, your ‘self-talk’. Re-reread that last sentence, it is that important. Ask yours, how is my self-talk now?
Are you asking yourself questions or having inner dialogue like:
What did I do that?
That was stupid.
That was a mistake.
Only a loser would do that.
Only a failure would make that mistake.
(you get the picture)
Each of these is a question that will get answered by your subconscious or will be a statement you teach your subconscious who you feel you are should be.
Even if you say to yourself ‘Only a loser would do that.’ or ‘That was stupid.’ Your subconscious mind edits it to mean you are the loser or you are stupid.
What happens if you re-frame those statements? What if your inner critic had something positive or supportive to say?
New and re-framed inner dialogue statements or questions could be:
What can I learn from this?
That was an interesting result.
That was surprising feedback.
This is an interesting challenge.
I wonder what I can learn from this?
How can I grow from this?
I’m amazing at sales.
How will this opportunity lead to more?
I’m a great leader.
You get the picture.
Try it right now. Think of a challenge or something you feel less than confident about.
Make this a daily habit to talk to yourself with whom you are and who you know yourself to be and repeat it, like a mantra, in your head or out loud. This simple habit alone can change your world for the better.
Be your biggest critic.
Question everything, but frame it with an aim and constructive critique.
You’ll notice success hitting you from all sides. Good luck with that new challenge!